First of all, what is a Psychopath?
A psychopath has no official diagnosis, so it definitely doesn’t refer to someone with mental illness. The real definition of a psychopath in psychiatry is Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD). It refers to a person who often shows some patterns of manipulation and violations unto other people.
Note that it doesn’t refer to people who are often reserved or loners who keep it to themselves.
Psychopathy means going against the societal rules and other common behaviors that are exhibited by the majority people.
Common Signs of a Psychopath.
Since there is no clinical diagnosis of a psychopath, the signs are described under ASPD. These signs you should be aware of include the following:
- Frequent lies and deceitfulness
- Inability to show empathy and remorse
- Difficulty to differentiate right from wrong
- Manipulating others
- Socially irresponsible
- Disregard towards responsibility
- Constant clash with the law
- Reckless behaviors
These people lack deep emotional connections but they often have a very superficial charm about them and they are very aggressive. They can get very angry at times to the extreme of being abusive or violent.
This behavior is more predominant in men than women.
Can a Psychopath Fall in Love?
Are psychopaths really incapable of being vulnerable and express their honest emotions of falling in love?
Is psychopathy that more gender specific affecting more men than women?
Do psychopaths really lack empathy and the capability of relating with other people in the ecosystem?
People with psychopathic tendencies exhibit the personality character similar to the ones displayed by criminals. They have an overall sense of insecurity in the way they get attached to other people where they avoid forming close relationships as much as possible.
There are two main key indicators of psychopathy; lack of empathy and emotional detachment. Regardless of all these ill behavioral characters, people with psychopathic tendencies are still capable of forming romantic relationships which can last up to marriage.
Couples in such a psychopathic kind of relationship might not have formed a bod as a result of intimacy. It might be through their similar view of the world in which they focus on getting as much out of other people as possible.
Due to the fact that they lack empathy and cannot express their emotions, they often default to being violent and often dissolve disputed through the destructive patterns of interacting with each other.
On the flip side, these couples can also a more positive vibe that becomes healthier and can influence each other to form an intimate bond. This bond will then lead them to being more trusting and emotionally open to one another.
Therefore, if your partner tends to be extremely psychopathic, be prepared for the rough times ahead, because their failure to empathize with you may lead you to further retreat into yourself.
Weaknesses and hidden Sufferings of Psychopaths.
The main weakness of psychopaths is the fact that they fail to learn from their experiences. The traits used to identify them is just plainly displayed on their repetitive behaviors. They have a difficulty in accepting their flaws and are never ready to sit down and be judged.
Don’t get me wrong here, psychopaths have an undying love for their family but they have a hard time loving and trusting the rest of the world.
They also suffer emotionally due to the detachment from their loved ones as a result of their behaviors.
People get tired and fed up with their behaviors, so they are finally left alone then they go ahead looking for the next person if they can.
Here are some of the things that psychopaths experience and often make them suffer:
- Psychopaths experience a lot of sadness because they often feel inferior to other people because they know that they are being stigmatized as a result of their behavior.
- Emotional pain that leads to violence. This is due to social isolation that makes them feel lonely and pain inside. The continual of this feeling leads to violent acts because they start believing that the world is working against them. They become convinced that they deserve special treatment and their desires must be satisfied.
- Self-destructions can lead them to the extremes that they want to harm themselves more than others. They might feel that all life is worthless and they might reach a point where they decide to violently take their own life.
How to Deal With a Psychopath in a Relationship.
If you are in a relationship with a psychopath who has confirmed to have all the above traits and you must deal with them, try using these five strategies:
Always keep Your Emotions in Check.
You cannot afford to lose your cool in the presence of a psychopath because they like people who easily get into an emotional breakdown. No matter how upset or frustrated you feel, always present a cool, calm and a collected demeanor.
Don’t believe their Stories.
In case you haven’t noticed, psychopaths have some long tales of how they can present themselves as victims at all times. They are always out to blame other people and never take personal responsibility for their mess.
Don’t play into their hands by sympathizing with them; keep the conversations centered on facts.
Focus the conversation on them.
It is important to focus the conversation on what goes on around them. This will help you spot their flaws in real time and gives you power to disarm them. This will not give them any window of blaming others.
Don’t let their intimidations get to you.
Psychopaths use intimidations to try and control others. They might use aggressive languages to get you to shut up and listen to their nonsense. The best thing is for you to stand your ground and be assertive without letting them get in your head.
Build your mental muscles.
Sometimes it is hard to get out of a relationship with a psychopath, so the next best thing is to be mentally strong at all times. Be proactive in taking care of your mental health and try to manage stress because it is difficult to stay strong when you are constantly in touch with a toxic person.